Teacher vs Mother


Of all the things I aspire to become and all the things I have already achieved… motherhood is my absolute favourite! I believe in being there for my children and spending time with them! Surely I experience moments when they drive me to the point of insanity… which mother does not? But I love them with all of my heart♡

I work hard to provide for my children and take care of them. My children will always be my number one priority! I work hard to be the best mother I can be. Unfortunately I am only human and turns out being a mother of four is not always easy. I forget important dates and sometimes slip up. The important thing is that I do the best I can.

The message…

The past week I did not sign my son’s reading chart, we had a very busy week and with all the homework we didn’t get a chance to read his book. I thought to myself… we will read his book the next week.

Oh boy! Clearly his teacher did not see it the same way as I did… I would also like to add, I wasn’t the only mom who didn’t sign the reading chart. I just did not see the point in signing the reading chart if we have not yet worked through the book.

The following week we received a message from his teacher, on our class group…

Saying the following;

“All the children received books one week ago, and she noticed half of the mothers did not listen to their children read and also did not sign the reading chart.” She further stated that it is not acceptable and it is our duty as mother’s to listen to our children read and to sign the reading chart.

Don’t get me wrong, I agree. As mother’s we have certain responsibilities. I also understand that reading is very important for a child’s development.



What really bothered me…

She finished the message by praising the mother’s doing everything we apparently weren’t, by saying “Thank you to the mother’s that faithfully assist their children with their homework and practice reading with their children.”

Is not what she said but rather the way she said it that had my blood boiling!

Implying that we weren’t trying hard enough or didn’t care enough to help our children! It was as if she made us out to be bad mother’s separating us from the good mother’s.

It’s not okay!

It is not okay to make mother’s feel bad or unworthy. I had my eldest daughter at the age of 16, my son at the age of 19 and took in 2 foster care children at the age of 23. I am a full time working mother, founder and co-owner of Setshabelo Trading Printing and Personalised Gifts, co-author of The Content Life and Female Entrepreneur.

I have a great relationship with all my children! I wipe away their tears if they are hurting, hold them tight when they need a hug, tuck them into bed every night, clothe them, bathe them, feed them and give them all the support and motivation to live to their full potential.

We all have some bad days and some good days. One signature does not define what type of mother I am! Nor does it give a teacher the right to make a mother feel worse than they already do. I am sure, like me, most mother’s had a simple explanation for not signing the reading chart. Maybe some mother’s did listen to their children read and just forgot to sign the reading chart.

Whatever the reason, we as mother’s and females should be supporting each other! It is hard enough in the world we live in to keep up with all that is happening around us.

Some mother’s have no support system and may need a little inspiration and motivation.

Mom, if your out there, feeling like a failure, feeling unworthy or not good enough I want you to know, if you are giving it your best you are DOING A GREAT JOB!

Kind words can make a huge difference in someone else’s life. I’d like to invite you to share your story by commenting below⬇. I’d love to have a conversation about this subject.



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